Diminishing in rejoicing

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Diminishing in rejoicing:

At the entrance of the month of Menachem Av one diminishes in joy.[1] One is thus not to rejoice at all.[2] [Some[3] however learn that one is merely diminish in joy and does not have to end all joy completely.]


Until when is one to diminish in joy?

Some Poskim[4] say this ruling extends until Rosh Chodesh Elul. Others[5] rule it extends until after the 10th of Av. Others[6] rule it extends until the 15th of Av. Others[7] rule it extends until after Shabbos Nachamu.


Matters of frivolity:[8]

One is to be especially careful during these days not to have conversations of frivolity and lightheartedness.


Jewelry and makeup:

Some Poskim[9] write women are to diminish in makeup and jewelry during the nine days.


[1] Michaber 551:1; Mishneh Taanis 26b

[2] M “A 551:1; Elya Raba 551:1; Shulchan Gavoa 551:2; P”M 551 A”A 1; Chayeh Adam 133:9; M”B 551:1; Misgeres Hashulchan; Kaf Hachaim 551:2

Other opinions: Some Poskim rule one is only required to diminish in joy regarding the joyous matters discussed in this chapter. [Mateh Yehuda 551]

[3] Shaar HaTziyon 551:21 “possibly one only has to diminish his joy and not stop it completely”; Toras Menachem 9:99

[4] M”A 551:2 in name of Rabbeinu Yerucham regarding avoiding a court case with a  gentile; M”B 552:2

[5] Kaf Hachaim 551:1 and 3; Ben Ish Chaiy Devarim 1; Aruch Hashulchan 551:11; M”B ibid “At the very least until after Tisha B’av”

[6] Glosses of Chasam Sofer 551; Yifei Laleiv brought in Kaf Hachaim 551:3; Rebbe in Shaareiy Halacha Uminhag 2:225 regarding moving

The reason: As good events occurred on the 15th of Av hence changing the tone of the month.

[7] Minchas Elazar 3:66 regarding weddings

[8] Yesod Veshoresh Havoda 11-12

[9] Ashel Avraham Butchach 551

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